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MGG201W – Marriage Guidance – facilitative couples counselling
Theme ONE – Understanding
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Intimacy involves: love, affection and caring, deep attachment to another person.
The TRIPOD of couple relationships
An intimate relationship consists of three factors that form a tripod on which the
relationship rests.
1. Passionate attraction (PA)
2. Mutual expectations (ME)
3. Personal intentions (PI)
Passionate attractions (PA)
→ Individual experiences intensely pleasurable sensations when thinking about
or being with a new partner.
→ Blushing, trembling, breathlessness, high sexual desire
→ Referred to as infatuation = passing love “a foolish and unreasoning
love’
→ Infatuation is not a realistic / accurate appraisal of the relationship /
idealisation
→ Negative / flaws in the idealised beloved may be intellectually recognised, but
disregarded as endearingly special. Person chooses to ignore the negatives
→ Normal phase in the process of relationships
→ Infatuation can lead to a lasting relationship – but it mostly fades away and
relationship based on infatuation alone will fail.
Love
→ Involves physical attraction - deeper
→ Love encompasses PA, ME and PI
→ People rely mostly on life experiences to guide them to their own unique way
of demonstrating love.
→ Eric Fromm “love is active concern for the life and growth of the person we
love”
→ Love is deep, unselfish, caring, deep respect
Hauck’s basic principles about love
It is not just the person you love, but rather what he/she does for you -
actions speak louder than verbal promises of love and devotion.
Just like any business relationship, you have to invest in the relationship so as
to benefit from its rewards - love requires a reciprocal investment from both
parties
Love is like a business partnership – it needs management - rules to ensure it
remains mutually satisfying
The goal in the relationship is to be reasonably content.
Mutual Expectations (ME)
→ Passionate attractions create a group of mutual expectations.
→ People are surrounded by their own personal worlds of meaning and if they
want their relationship to survive, they have to explicitly state what they [Show Less]